What Is True Caring & Kindness?

How much more could you allow yourself to function from the gifts of true caring and kindness to you in your own life?

And by the way, if you’ve looked through my blog or social media so far, you may have noticed that I use the words “true” and “truly” in a lot of the questions that I post about… and maybe have wondered what that’s about…

It’s because we have so many ideas about what things like caring, kindness, gratitude, being ourselves, or all sorts of things are… that aren’t actually the truth of what those things are.

You may have had people tell you “oh just be grateful for what you have!” and the energy of what they’re saying isn’t one of gratitude and appreciation for what you do have, but rather something like “shut up and just settle for what you’ve already got (because I’m uncomfortable with you always looking for more)!”…

Or maybe you learned from observing other people in your life that caring means judging the people you care about and trying to control them into doing what you think is best for them (and maybe you internalized that way of treating yourself)… or maybe that caring means doing what others want even at your own expense, without questioning what would work for you and them…

Unraveling all of these sorts of misconceptions and getting more clear on what’s actually true so you can live your life from more awareness of what you’re choosing is something that we can dive deep into with full Access classes or sessions, but a simple way to start getting more clear that you can use now, whether you’ve done an Access class so far or not… is by asking questions!

Just by asking a question, you open yourself up to the awareness of what that question is about.

Whatever you think that the energies of caring or kindness are, what if it’s even greater than what you’ve considered so far?

Kindness can be things that appear nice, but it can also be doing difficult things that actually contribute to a greater future for you.

Caring can be allowing yourself the space of not judging yourself, to do whatever you require for you, and your own growth and empowerment, and to get to the future you desire… even if no one else approves of it, or if it isn’t consistent with what you’ve learned to think was the correct way of living your life.

If you’ve learned throughout your life to live in ways that others approve of or that you have to do things that others want without question in order to have them in your life, or out of “respect”, or for any reason… then choosing for you for your own future can be different than how you’ve been living your life so far.

(And choosing for you doesn’t mean choosing against anyone else. It may actually contribute to others around you in your life, once you’re contributing more to your own life first and including you more in the consideration of the choices you make involving others.)

If you were willing to have your own back, regardless of whether anyone else did or not, what would that add to your life, and what else would become possible in your life?

(And how much more would you be able to contribute to others who are actually contributing to your life, once you take care of you first?)

And if you were willing to honor you with every choice that you make, what would be different for you, and what would be possible that has never been possible before?

What choices could you make that would truly be honoring of you?

These questions are some that you can ask each day to go beyond the concept of caring for you and actually start to become more aware of what you can choose each day to have more of that as a reality for you moving forward…

If I were truly caring for me today, what would I choose?

If I were truly being kind to me today, what would I choose?

If I were truly choosing for me today, what would I choose?

If I were truly having my own back today, what would I choose?

If I were truly honoring me today, what would I choose?